My next door neighbor just moved. I'm really going to miss her--she was the Laurel advisor in our ward, a great example for the girls--and a wonderful friend. On her last Sunday she shared her testimony with the Young Women and reminded them never to "settle". That was the underlying theme to the lesson she and her husband taught on temple marriage--don't settle!
Don't settle for less than the man who is everything you want. Don't settle for someone who's not temple worthy. Don't settle for less than a temple marriage.
I've been thinking about this, and I wish that all young women/young adult sisters in the church could have heard their lesson. I want to plead with them, "Don't settle!"
My husband has always said the same thing, but in his own way--he says that you should give yourself every reason to succeed in marriage. That means no "if's". You shouldn't be saying to yourself, "This marriage will work if... " (You can fill in the blank):
...if he joins the Church
...if we get sealed some day
...if she gets over that old flame
...if we make lots of money
...if our in-laws stay out of it
...if he gets his act together
etc, etc, etc....
And so, I say to all unmarried women:
Don't settle! You are worth it! Your Heavenly Father (and your earthly parents) wants the best circumstances for you--counsel with him (and them), and listen.....they love you. But, what whatever you do,
give yourself every chance to succeed!